Observing your Baby

Posted in: Fathers, Infants, Parenting, Postpartum, Self-care, Toddlers

by Dr Bronwyn Leigh

 

Babies don’t come with a manual – they are the manual!

Observing your baby and trying to understand what is going on for them is a ‘way in’ to understand them and getting to know them.  Understanding what babies may be experiencing allows us to respond more easily, genuinely and responsively. The experience of being understood helps your baby to feel secure, confident and builds a sense of trust.  A way to understand their experiences is to observe closely and read their behavioural cues.

The idea is to observe your baby in the present moment.  While observing, try to maintain a non-judgemental stance.  Observation is not about whether your baby is behaving well, looking good, or doing what you want.  This is about getting to know him as a unique individual and noticing his responses to his environment.  When you get stuck, simply return to a position of curious wondering.

 

Tips for Observing

  • Slow down.  Just observe.  Observing involves careful and conscious attending.  Be curious about what she is doing.
  • Try to imagine what she is experiencing and feeling.
  • Why do you think she is feeling that way?  What are her cues or signals to you?  What are you noticing?
  • What do you notice about her spontaneous activity?  What is she trying to communicate?
  • When you get stuck, try to be curious.  Describe in words what you see her doing.
  • When your mind wanders – which it will, a lot – simply bring your mind back to the present moment.  Allow your baby to be your focus.
  • Try to determine her state of consciousness (refer to blog on ‘Six States of Alertness for Newborns’).

Observe your baby with an unhurried curiosity…

 

At the Centre for Perinatal Psychology, we know it can be a challenge to read and understand your baby sometimes,  especially if you are struggling yourself as a parent, or if your baby has additional needs.  We are here to support you as you navigate your way in your parenting journey.

About the Author

Dr Bronwyn Leigh is a clinical psychologist, perinatal and infant clinician and early parenting consultant. She is the Director of the Centre for Perinatal Psychology. Bronwyn specialises in the psychological aspects of becoming a parent, the emotional development of infants, and parent-infant relationships.

Contact us Today

Find a psychologist near you that can help you with early parenting. You can search by Location and some of our psychologists accept online bookings.

Call us on 1300 852 660 or contact us to make an appointment or enquiry.

 

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *